In chapter 2 of the book “Turning Points” I came across few points that helped, changed my way of analyzing my characteristic. I use to think that influences can never change a person if he does not let it. On the other hand the writer explained in that chapter that
We are shaped by the group we are in.
We think that we could escape the negative influences but we can’t. We get bothered with looking at the characteristics of the group. With an effort of will we can shield our self to some extent from group influences but we can never be full bullet proof. So now I believe that we should have friends that are willing to help us and not think that ok they are my friend and it’s ok to hang out with them as long as I am ok. And at the same time always try to be around people that you see that has the same dream or at least studying the same group. Cause they can always be an extra help